In a previous blog post, we talked about Self-Care. Today we’re going to discuss Self-Love.

Some people think self-love and self-care are the same thing but that’s not necessarily true. Many take care of their health–eat clean, exercise, limit alcohol and sugar intake, etc.–and yet still hate their bodies or have a list of character flaws a mile long.

In other words, their internal dialogue is far less than loving toward themselves.

Now, by self-love I don’t mean cocky, arrogant or conceited, but a healthy love of Who you are. And who you are is a perfect soul in an imperfect body and imperfect world.

What do you see, and say, when you look in the mirror? Are you loving and appreciative of the body you’ve been blessed with or disgusted and disapproving?

WHY?

Who says what’s good or bad about the vessel that houses your soul?

We have allowed the opinions of everyone and everything outside of us to determine our worth!

Jesus said we should, “love your neighbor as yourself.” But how can we love our neighbor if we don’t even like ourselves?

So, how can we cultivate Self-Love?

One way is to simply close your eyes, place your hand over your heart and breathe in, “love.”

Another, is to say, “I love you,” instead of just breathing in the feeling of love.

One of the best ways is to look in the mirror at yourself, put your hand over your heart, and say, “I love you.”

If professing your love for/to yourself feels too icky, start by complimenting yourself. Hey Gorgeous (or handsome). You look good today. I really like your smile or that dress you’re wearing. That color looks good on you!

When you begin cultivating self-love, you may feel resistance in your body but if you’ll stick with the practice, I promise you will develop a healthy sense of love, kindness, and compassion for the vessel in which your soul resides.

Something to think about!
PamT
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Back in February of this year (2025) I did a workshop on Heart Coherence. What is that? You ask. 

Medically speaking, Heart Coherence is a state of being where your body's systems (heart, lungs, brain) align, leading to a balanced Autonomic Nervous System and more efficient functioning.

In layman’s terms, heart coherence is when your mind is quiet, your heart is open, your spirit is peaceful and you are able to hear what God or Your Intuition is telling you.   

In other words, you are not "stressed out." 

How do you get there?

Simple. Place your palms over your heart, close your eyes and take 5 deep (really deep) breaths, exhaling slowly through pursed lips (like you’re blowing out of a straw). Once everything is calm and quiet, think of something/someone you love and appreciate and/or something/someone you're grateful for.

Feel that? That soft, sweet feeling? 

THAT is heart coherence.

And, when you are in heart coherence more often than not, life seems to go a lot more smoothly and, honestly, you get more accomplished.

Some other ways to get into Heart Coherence are
*Sitting in nature.
*Meditation
*Practicing Yoga or Tai Chi.
*Indulging in a hot bath, sauna or massage. 

In other words, any activity that leads to a peaceful state of being where the monkey-mind has quit its incessant chatter, your body is relaxed and your heart and spirit feel expansive.

Try setting a timer or reminder on your phone to go off every few hours and check in with yourself and bring your body into heart coherence. You'll be amazed at the results.

Something to think about!
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You can't "find" time to write or meditate or (fill in the blank), you have to MAKE time. 

I know, I know, easier said than done. But is it?

Let’s think about this for a moment...

Everything in life is 90% perception and any change you want to make in yours usually requires a change in mindset first. So, remember, Time is an Illusion when complaining about your inability to set aside a few minutes a day or hours a week to pursue your passion or practice self-care.
 
Man created the clock, and we all have the same number of minutes/hours in a day. People who manage their time and spend it wisely do great things for themselves, their family, the community and, sometimes, humanity as a whole. “Not having time,” is one of the easiest excuses to fall back on when starting a pet project or implementing a new habit or anything else that will expand you. The mind does not like this, it would rather you stay stuck in your rut or in your safe zones.
 
So, what can you do?
 
First determine how bad you want it (whatever ‘it’ is).
 
Second, recognize when “something comes up” to prevent your scheduled time for yourself and be aware if that is really something urgent or important, or if it is simply procrastination brought on by fear.
 
Now that you’ve set your mind on your goal(s), here are some tips and tricks to making time in your schedule to accomplish it/them.

• For a week or two, keep track of your time the way you would your money when planning a budget. Be honest with yourself about your schedule.
• See if there are opportunities to combine activities in order to free up some time in your day or week. EX: Get your oil changed while eating lunch or while getting your hair cut or picking up a few non-perishables or shopping for gifts or clothes or whatever.
• Cut TV time or Telephone time.
• Be aware of time thieves like social media.
• See if you have time you can work on your project while waiting in a Dr.’s office or some place similar.

Find out where you can schedule 10-15 minutes and allocate those to your passion project, new business, or health goals. This may not sound like much but despise not small beginnings. Trust me, when you commit to those 10-15 minutes and stick with it, you'll discover they often evolve into 30 minutes or more. 

Something to think about!
"Inspirational with an Edge! ™
"Coaching in Pjs" ™