3 Business Coaching Tips That Changed Everything for My ADHD Clients 

Hi there! I’m Shelby, a hairdresser turned freelance writer turned business coach. I also have ADHD, but it wasn’t until my late 20s that I was finally diagnosed and some of my lifelong struggles started to finally make sense.
 
That diagnosis drove me to learn more about ADHD brains and what I could do to build a freelance business that works with me, not against me. Now, I coach new and aspiring freelancers on stepping in self-love and pursuing the work they’ve always dreamed of.
 
But it wasn’t always fun or easy! In fact, back at the very beginning, I paused my freelance dreams for an entire year because I couldn’t handle the thought of hearing “no” from potential clients.
 
When I finally discovered I had Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria— a real neurological difference common in people with ADHD— everything clicked into place. The shame I'd been carrying for years suddenly had a name.
 
And more importantly, a solution!
 
That's when I started training to become a coach other ADHD entrepreneurs. Because for many ADHD brains like mine, all the mindset work in the world won't help if you're fighting against your own biochemistry.
 
Today, I'm sharing three coaching tips that have transformed how my clients approach their businesses. These are practical, neurologically-informed approaches that are proven to work for ADHD brains, soul-led creatives, and anyone who might describe themselves as “sensitive.”
 
Tip #1: Start Small to Create Momentum If you’re anything like me, trying to start each day by tackling the hardest task is a sure path to procrastination. Turns out, there’s a neurological reason for that.
 
The gist is, people with ADHD produce less dopamine, a hormone produced by the brain. It’s known as the “feel-good” hormone because it’s tied to motivation and the joy of finishing tasks.
 
Since we have less of it, the best thing you can do is to start your day with something you know you can accomplish. Answer three emails. Organize your desktop. Make that quick phone call you've been putting off!
 
That small win gives you momentum. It provides your system with just enough dopamine to tackle the bigger task.
 
One more secret: save 1-2 smaller wins for after the big thing as a treat to look forward to. You'll be amazed how much faster you finish when there's something enjoyable waiting on the other side!
 
Tip #2: Mindset + Exposure = Lasting Change I work with a lot of people who've done so much powerful mindset work. They've journaled,  internalized the affirmations, and reframed their limiting beliefs.
 
And yet… they're still frozen when it's time to take action.
 
One of the biggest things I've learned as both an ADHD coach for freelance writers and someone who's been there myself is that your nervous system doesn't care what you “know.”
 
Let me explain.
 
You can believe with your entire logical mind that you're capable of reaching out to potential clients. But if your body goes into fight-or-flight mode the second you open LinkedIn, no amount of positive thinking will override that response.
 
That's where tiny, bite-sized doses of exposure therapy comes in.
 
If you're terrified of reaching out to clients, start by connecting with 10 copywriters on LinkedIn. They almost never say no to connection requests, and suddenly you have proof that reaching out to people isn't actually dangerous.
 
Then, maybe you comment on a few posts. Then you send a friendly DM to someone whose work you admire. Each small step gives your nervous system evidence that it's safe to be visible.
 
That exposure, tied with the mindset work you’ve already done, is the key to lasting change and strength.
 
Tip #3: Fun Isn't Immature… It's Strategic! Some people can simply think “I need my paycheck” and that's enough motivation to power through their day.If you have ADHD, the idea of money being all the motivation necessary sounds impossible.
 
Because the truth is, if you have ADHD, you need fun! You need games, puzzles, novelty, and challenge. You need to make things interesting to keep that dopamine flowing, because like I mentioned earlier, your brain has a hard time producing dopamine all on its own.
 
And let me tell you, nothing about that is silly or immature.
 
I've worked with brilliant, accomplished business owners who felt ashamed that they needed to gamify their invoicing process or turn their inbox into a points system. They'd been told their whole lives to “just buckle down and do the work like an adult.”
 
But what I tell every single one of them is that this isn’t childish! We’re actually leveraging biochemistry, which is pretty smart if I do say so myself.
 
Some of my clients race against timers. Some create elaborate reward systems. Some alternate between different types of tasks to keep things interesting. Whatever works for your brain is the right approach.
 
Stop trying to “work like a normal person” and start working like yourself.
 
About Shelby Dennis: Shelby Dennis is known for her creative and unique approach to writing, whether for her clients or her own courses and coaching materials. Her new official website, www.freelancermindset.com, breaks down her methodology and approach to coaching new writers, and you can subscribe to her free newsletter there as well. She also runs a Skool community for new and aspiring freelance writers who need support. Whether you struggle with ADHD or simply want to build a freelance business that feels authentic, Shelby will help you confidently navigate this journey with confidence.
 
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Until next time take care, God Bless and Please Be Kind... be kind to yourself, be kind to others and I pray your kindness returs to you 100-fold.
PamT

In a previous post, we talked about the power of your words to co-create your life with God. Today, we are going to talk about the power of I am. The phrase "I am" is particularly potent, acting as a catalyst for personal growth and manifestation. These two simple words can shape our reality and influence our self-perception in profound ways.

Now this is scripturally based, but it's also well known in the world of manifestation and in the arenas of personal development and spiritual growth as well. Louise Hay, the grandmother of affirmations, is infamous for saying that whatever you say following I am, you create in your life.

The Bible says in Proverbs: "Let the poor say, I am rich; let the weak say, I am strong."

So, whatever words you couple with I am, have even more creative power than just idle words that you speak. Every word that you speak, creates something. You co-create your life with God through your words, your thoughts, your deeds, and your actions and your attitudes.

This is nothing new. Pastor Joel Osteen has a book called The Power of I Am. Wayne Dyer talked about the power of I Am. 

Now, let's think about it in a way that's beneficial, that can help change your life, and help you live a more fulfilled life. Bob Proctor talked about writing a goal card that says, I am so happy and grateful now that… and you fill in the blank of what it is that you're creating in your life, what you want to become, whatever dream that's coming true for you. Keep this in mind when you're talking and when you're thinking about your life.

Put this into practice!

If you say, I'm tired. I am so tired. See how your body feels. Eventually your body's gonna feel tired. If you keep saying, I'm sick and tired, I'm sick and tired, I'm sick and tired, one of these days, you're gonna feel sick and tired. Whether it's emotionally or physically, or both.

Therefore, make I AM a powerful affirmation. I am well, I am healthy, I am strong, I am powerful, I am magical, I am infinite, I am love, I am loved, I am loving, I am kind, I am rich. I am rich in friends, I am rich in relatives. I am rich in consciousness. I am rich in whatever. It doesn't have to be money. It can be anything but money.

However, always include money! I am wealthy. I am financially secure. 

I have pages and pages of journal entries where I wrote I am affirmations, especially after the time my husband passed away and I was thrown into a world that I never wanted to exist in as being a single woman. I didn't know who I was at all. I used to laugh when I heard about people who had to go "find themselves." Well, I found myself trying to figure out who Pam really was and is. I would say those affirmations as I exercised...I am strong. I am powerful. I am beautiful. I am desirable. I am an anointed and successful author.

Again, you can use I Am statements for so many things. So, when you think about the life you want to create, and you think about the power of the words, couple I AM with whatever your dream is.

Think about the little engine that could. He always said, I think I can, I think I can.

​I am gives you that same power.
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If your dream is to be a successful artist, I am a successful artist. I am an anointed and successful artist. I am capable of doing this.

Students out there, if you're facing challenges with your work or your finals or exams or whatever: I am smart. I am capable of understanding this. I am capable of learning this.

Gentlemen, I am strong. I am powerful. I am healthy.

Think about your health. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthier? I am healed. I am healthy. I am whole. I am complete.

If you're having problems with self-esteem or self-worth: I am gorgeous. I am beautiful. I am desirable.  I am worthy. I am worthy to receive. I am unique. I am special.

Whatever, make your ‘I AM’ statements positive. Make them strong and powerful and watch your life change.

Something to think about...
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